I think I’m an overthinker
Jeg har fået at vide nogle gange nu, at jeg er en ‘overthinker’. Altså en der tænker alt for meget over tingene. For det meste er det blevet sagt lidt i sjov, men der er nu noget om snakken. Det er ikke kun når det kommer til beslutningen om, om jeg skal købe den nederdel eller ej. Jeg analyserer også virkelig meget oppe i mit hoved, når folk siger noget til mig. Det der med at være en overtænker, er vist et typisk introvert træk, så det ligger nok bare til mig. Jeg har det med at tage ting ret personligt, og kan nogle gange tænke over en kommentar eller situation i dagevis. Det er faktisk ret drænende! Og mest af alt spild af tid og energi. Derfor prøver jeg også at skære det negative ud af mit liv. Ikke at du altid selv kan vælge, men du kan selv vælge at sige nej til kaffe date med den person, som altid rakker dig ned. Måske gør hun det ikke bevidst. Hun kan faktisk vise sig at have mange gode sider.
Jeg har selv oplevet det, og istedet for at være ubehøvlet, og sætte vedkommende på plads, har jeg bare valgt at minimere min tid med den person. Nogle mennesker skal man have i små doser, og sådan er det bare når man er forskellige. Det vigtigste er at lytte til sig selv, men samtidig huske at høre andre. Min (eller din) mening er ikke altid den der gælder, så det er vigtigt at høre på andre end blot sig selv. Jeg læste for nyligt i et blog post, at du bliver lige som de personer du omgiver dig mest med. Hendes råd var at vælge med omhu og virkelig være nådesløs i sin beslutning. Og jeg må give hende fuldstændig ret! Du er nødt til at tænke på dig selv først, for at kunne være den bedste udgave af dig selv når du er sammen med andre.
English / People often say that I’m an overthinker and eventhough I kind of laugh about it I think it’s true! when things happen to me I often take it personally and keep analyzing in my head. It’s so draining. But lately I’ve been finding myself being more consequent about not letting negativity in to my life. I know you can’t always choose that yourself, but it really helped to think more about myself and less on the people who deliberately og not deliberately bring negativity in to my life. Say ‘No’ to meeting up for that coffee if that person is just gonna point out all the things you do bad! Some people don’t realize that they are interfering in how you deal with your life. They simply can’t imagine that there’s an opninion that’s more accurate than their own. It used to really upset me when I was in the company of those kind of people. Espeically because I didn’t have the courage to be rude to them and tell them off.
But I realized that 9 out of 10 times these personalities doesn’t even realize that they are being rude. They really mean no harm by it. They simply can’t keep their opinions to themselves. It taught me to just not spend that much time in their company. For my own sake I would rather do that than leaving a coffee date feeling sad and frustrated. I have come to the conclusion that, that is the best solution for me AND for them. They wont hurt me by being so opinionated and I wont hurt them by letting my frustrations come out like a vulcanic eruption. This blogger that I follow recently said in a post on her blog, that you become like the people you spend most time with. Her advice was to be careful when choosing those people and to be rutheless. I honestly couldn’t agree more. You have to think about yourself first in order to be able to be the best version of you around others.
